Know it all
Ever get into a conversation with a knows it all? No matter what, they smartly respond to each comment with a tutorial. These individuals are the un-coachable entrepreneurs.
What we know about them, although they may not realize this about themselves, is that constantly offering instruction blocks them from further learning. The desire for perfection limits their potential. They have less impact and influence because others typically perceive them as unapproachable and arrogant.
Humble, not arrogant
Removing the mask of “knowing it all” opens the door to further learning opportunities. If you’ve had the privilege of spending time with a true master, you realize they are typically humble people. Rather than remind everyone of their greatness, their grounded presence speaks for itself.
Psychology 101 teaches a basic concept regarding self-awareness called The Johari Window. We possess four quadrants.
1. Open. What you know about me and what I know about me. This information is easily available to everyone. Maybe it’s hair color, gender and height. Or, it could be what you find out about me when you search my name on Google. As we talk to one another, more comes out in the open through dialogue.
2. Hidden. It’s what I know about myself that you don’t know. My hidden desires, my dreams and my memories live in this quadrant. As I share these personal things with you, they’re no longer hidden. They then move into the open category.
3. Blind. This focuses on what you know about me that I don’t know. Your personal opinion about me. Or, how I tap my foot when I’m anxious. As we get to know each other better, you may reveal some of your thoughts and observations with me. Once I receive your feedback, that information transfers into the open category.
4. Unknown. The things in this category are unknown to me and unknown to you. My subconscious thoughts and forgotten memories live here. As our relationship grows, some of these hidden pieces of information can rise to the surface and move into one of the other categories. When I pursue challenges that stretch me, I often discover something about myself that had remained unknown until that moment.
The open category expands as I share about myself, receive feedback from others and gain insight. This contributes to increased self-awareness.
Release the “know it all” burden
Growth occurs in a variety of ways. I no longer possess the desire to “know it all.” In fact, I really don’t want to know everything. That’s a huge burden to bear.
Instead, I learn from everyone. And often, the people that I believe are more unlikely to teach me something turn out to be my best teachers. Is that true for you, too?
Professors and mentors are your obvious teachers. Traditional classroom learning, however, only takes you so far. Experiential learning makes a greater impact.
Desire for control
Like many entrepreneurs, I like to be in control. When I was younger, I didn’t realize that my desire for control limited me, sometimes it created unnecessary tension or kept people at a distance. I decided to work on that part of me; the work is ongoing.
I love learning. And, my mind’s open to possibilities and opportunities that were previously hidden from me.
Now, I could claim that I did this all on my own. But that’s simply not true. My continuous work with a business coach, and participation in mastermind groups, significantly contributed to my transformation.
That’s because success happens from the inside out. I grew along with my business. It’s the only way I can sustain a high level of success. The combination of private coaching and participation in a mastermind group accelerated my growth process.
As I mentioned, some of my most insightful lessons appeared when I least expected them. My children taught me about control, letting go and allowing people to choose their own path. Either I could insist things be done my way and risk damaging our relationship because I had to be right, or I could consider their perspective.
Well, I chose to remain open rather than risk long-term damage to our relationship. Because of that, we discussed personal responsibility for the choices we make. And how those choices affect us personally, professionally and physically.
As you can imagine, mistakes occurred as we navigated through the teen years. Those failures offered insight about how to get a better result the next time around. Over time, my role shifted to guidance, continual love although I didn’t always like their choices, and realization that there was a high cost to being right all the time.
Who has been your teacher and impacted your life in an unexpected way? What new insights did you gain?
Choose a milestone that stretches beyond your current capabilities.
Consider how to achieve that milestone without adding anything additional onto your plate.
What strategic actions would tip the odds for success in your favor?
Determine what prevents you from achieving that milestone. Is it a thought, person, place or activity?
Why is this important to you?
Get support. What type of support do you need? Is it assistance with some tasks, a strategic plan, or an accountability partner?
Challenge yourself to approach things differently than you originally thought possible. Remember, teachers appear in many forms. The unexpected ones can give you insights that you couldn’t possibly anticipate.
The unknown factors
Be honest about how much you like being in control. If you’re unsure, then ask someone you trust. We all get in our own way. Fears, limiting beliefs and our ego, put the brakes on our potential. Of course, those things typically remain unknown.
Where do you stop yourself?
Identify one place where you’ve remained in your comfort zone and how that’s impacted your business.
Write down the reason why you postpone getting that thing done.
If you decided to challenge yourself, what milestone would you set for yourself?
Set a date with destiny. Calendar the time to get this done.
Identify who you need on your team that would support your efforts.
What needs to be shed from your business? It could be a person, place or activity.
List two to three action steps you need to take.
Highly successful entrepreneurs consistently seek a better way. Their commitment to strategic growth is greater than their need to know it all. In fact, they surround themselves with people who are smarter than they are.
Growth happens from the inside out. Your thoughts influence your actions. The decision to finally achieve something that’s been on your mind is empowering. If you are reading this and it feels true for you, then get in touch with Loren for a complimentary Strategy Session.